Showing posts with label growing up. Show all posts
Showing posts with label growing up. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Angry, So Freaking Angry

Dear Arse-Hat Young People,

Angry, that word hardly seems sufficient for how I am feeling right now.  Your mean thoughtless abuse is responsible for breaking a little girl's heart, her confidence and her spirit.

What gives you the right to hurl abuse to someone sharing the walking path and open space with you.  Someone who is not in your way, who you don't know, who has done nothing to impact upon your day other than be walking by you.  When you yelled at her, swearing and scaring her, she was to frightened to walk to her destination and terrified to walk home because you had walked in that general direction, still yelling and swearing.  In fact she was so frightened that she walked in the opposite direction until she felt safe enough to call me.

One of the first things you yelled at her was, "What's in your F%*^*ing stinking box?"  Hopefully referring to the cardboard box she was ever so carefully carrying that contained a baby bird.  The same baby bird that she found in the garage this morning, that she carefully shielded from the cats to give it a chance to survive the day today whilst she was at school.  The bird that was ever so carefully placed upon a towel in the box to keep safe.  The same bird that she and a friend walked up to the vets to find out if it was a native bird that needed protecting.  It was, it was a Honey Eater.

The vet suggested that she find a garden with lots of native plants in it and place it in a shaded spot with a shallow basin of water next to it, to help keep it alive.  The vet suggested that it might not survive but that would give it the best chance.  Knowing that we don't have a garden she called a friend with a beautiful native garden to see if she could bring him over to live in their garden.  It was on the short walk to their house that you yelled at her and frightened her.  By the time she had the confidence to go home, talking to me on the phone the entire time, there was no time to take the bird elsewhere, her friends had gone out and she was expected to go out also.  She left the baby bird in his box with water and flowers but when we returned he had died.

We now have a nearly inconsolable girl who not only grieving the loss of a bird that she believes that she didn't get the chance to protect properly, she feels that young people, young adults, are people to be wary of.

Whilst I am disgusted by your behaviour and that of your 2 friends for not pulling you in to line, I am so proud of my daughter.  She would be less than half your age and she had the common sense to keep on walking, and to walk where she felt safe before calling for help.  I am proud of her for being brave enough to keep her cool whilst terrified.  I am also proud of her for talking to a police officer (a friend who is currently working in our normally lovely and safe community) and providing a thorough description of the people who scared her.

What I am most afraid of is that my confident beautiful girl will be less confident in what is essentially our back yard.  I am concerned that she won't want to go out exploring, walking to visit friends and enjoying where we live.  I am angry that I wasn't there to comfort her and I am angry that I have to console her.  Basically I am [insert every swear word under the sun here] angry.

No regards,
A very sad and disappointed Mum
(thankfully not your mum)

Monday, August 20, 2012

Sundays in my City #18 - Don't Change

Sunday morning our quiet house was invaded by a group of girls who couldn't possibly survive the weekend without spending time together.  Seeing that they had no soccer, they decided to 'relax' in the hot tub.   (Yes I do have photos but they aren't ones I can share without their permission.)

As the girls splashed away and squealed so loudly I thought that the neighbours would start to complain, I spent a few minutes inside enjoying the relative quiet.  I contemplated transferring photos and files from the old laptop and I thought I would share a few of the pictures I came across in the process to show just how much the noisy girl in the hot tub has changed.


Walking away
You are not listening!
My Cherub!
hmmm... looking at these old photos makes me see that some things really haven't changed at all...  The determination to just get her doll and go when she didn't want to be indoors...  The loud, well that hasn't changed at all...  What about the pig headed stubborn 'whatever!' look of this last one!

I do love that she still has a desire to get out and try new things, to go exploring and to know what she wants, even if that is far from what I want for her.   

Squirmy drop-tail
And yes, that would be the tail of a drop-tail gecko she is holding, it was still wriggling yet she wanted to pick it up.

Dear Milla,
Please remain the wonderful, independent, insightful and brave girl that you are for ever and ever.  Love a very proud Mama


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